This bothered me.

Did you do this?
...yes...
This bothered me. *blah blah blah* Do you see where I'm coming from? Can you understand why?
*silence*

it was at that point that I realized I had not been confronted in such a long time, I almost forgot how to communicate. I forgot that ppl actually try to be understood. I had been conditioned in - if it's broke....drop everything and run away NOW. the communication thing, it's just a faint memory right now. but again, it's something new. something challenging, just like i wanted.